As humans, we have a tendency to run away from our problems when they become too overwhelming. We’ll run away from people, our jobs, our marriage, and anything that threatens our personal bubble of peace and safety. 

If you and your spouse are drifting apart and thinking about splitting up into separate households, it might be best to evaluate all your alternatives before physically separating, even if it’s by mutual agreement. In these challenging times of housing market instability, it’s crucial to ensure you’re not being rash and instead making the best decision for you and your family.

Since we were kids, marriage has always been sold to us as the ultimate goal and love as a fairytale. It is depicted as a romantic, uncomplicated connection that will continue for better or worse.

It isn’t until we get older that we realize relationships are a little more complex. When you add modern-day factors into the equation, such as dealing with high rent, a limited or inadequate budget, raising children, cost of living, etc. it can be easy to disconnect with your partner when all your focus is tunnel-visioned on simply staying afloat amidst life’s curveballs.

When you and your spouse have lost your spark, your marriage is going through tough times, or things seem to be getting worse instead of better, it may not be a good idea to give up and separate, but rather to fight for your marriage by seeking outside counsel from an experienced licensed therapist. 

Susan Block, LMFT, and her team of therapists can offer you the tools you need to stabilize your relationship and strengthen its foundation. Learning to listen to one another, empathize with one another, and understand what the other partner is going through without passing judgment are a few of the first steps we’ll help you take. 

A love spanning over the course of many years is not easy to sustain. It takes both sides’ hard work and consistent effort to keep those butterflies alive. When you begin to feel stuck in your marriage, ask yourself:

  1. When you first met—what were the qualities that drew you to each other? Has either partner shifted away from these attributes? If so, why?
  2. What problems have arisen between you and your partner that has not been resolved? 
  3. As a team, how can you navigate life while working together? 
  4. Have you exhausted all options before deciding to split into two different households?

Remember, your love story can have a happy ending just like in fairytales as long as both partners fight for it. 

At Coral Springs Counseling Center, our mission revolves around making couples and individuals stronger while ensuring more emotional and mental stability. Our telehealth counseling sessions have immediate openings to see anyone in Broward, Dade, and Palm Beach Counties throughout Florida and the United States.

Don’t call it quits if your marriage can be fixed! Contact Susan Block, LMFT, and her team of therapists for your complimentary consultation. Our telehealth counseling services are 100% remote and available to individuals and couples across Florida and the United States. Call today!