For most people, juggling the demands of being a high powered professional and a devoted spouse and parent is an ongoing challenge. Achieving the elusive balance can often feel like an impossible objective, especially when giving each task 100%. Fortunately, it’s not. To “have it all,” implement measures that emphasize the importance of both. A few small changes can go a long way toward staying sane at work and home. For guidance in your pursuit, we’ve gathered eight proven-effective tips.
Managing Your Time
Among industrialized countries, the United States takes the gold medal in terms of hours worked per year. Annually, the average American employee puts in 1,800 hours. That’s 400 more hours than the average Norwegian and 330 more than the average Frenchman. On top of that, you have children to attend to and a spouse that desires attention. No wonder you’re overloaded!
- Start with a to-do list—simple, but effective. This will allow you keep track of things that need to be done and prioritize the impending tasks.
- Work smarter, not harder. Managing your time isn’t about fitting twenty-five responsibilities into twenty-four hours; it’s about simplifying your process. There is enough time in the day, but it may take some rearranging to get everything done.
- Stress should make you, not break you. What you make in money, you’ll lose in time and memories to be made. If you can manage, persevere with balance in mind. If your job requires that you sacrifice the people you love, consider leaving for another company.
Learn to Say “No.”
- You can respectfully decline offers to run the PTA or serve on an extra committee at work. When you stop agreeing to obligations out of guilt, you’ll find more time to focus on the activities that bring you happiness.
Protect Your Private Time
- Mental blocks and burning out: two concepts you’ve grown to accept but strive to avoid. “Me Time” gives you the opportunity to take a step back and reboot. Remember, when you’re on the fritz, you’re of no service to your employer or family. Once the break has served its purpose, return to your normal schedule with a sense of relief and clarity.
Disconnect to Connect
Turn off your TV and unplug your devices. Time spent together is critical for maintaining bonds, and a connection online won’t help your relationship in person.
Young children are still developing socially, mentally, physically, and emotionally. They look to you—make sure you’re there.
- Take the opportunity to help with their homework, attend a school function, or invest in a weekend activity.
- Cook a meal together. Your kitchen is the heart of your home. Have each child select their favorite dish and guide them as they prepare it.
Keeping your relationship on the front burner of life prevents the fire from burning out in your marriage.
- Call the babysitter and schedule a date night. If you’re unable to find one, don’t let that get in the way; plan something from home—watch a movie, order takeout, or complete a craft.
If you are seeking to speak with a professional therapist that can help with balancing things within your daily life, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Susan Block can help. Contact her at 954.675.1936 today! SusanBlockLMFT.com